5 Truth's Carrie Bradshaw Told Me (A NCWITB rebuttal)

5 Truth's Carrie Bradshaw Told Me
an indirect response to 5 Lies Carrie Bradshaw Told Me.

Many people try to argue that Sex and the City is completely unrealistic. No woman with that great of hair, who spends most of her time shopping, could really maintain an odd group of friends, several incredibly sexy lovers, and an apartment whose rent would be debilitating in the real world. My response to anyone who doubts this? Move to the city and watch us do it.
 
1. In a big city, your friendship group IS slap-together.
Everyone always comments on how there's no way that the 4 girls on Sex and the City would have ever been friends. Are you kidding me? Anyone who thinks this obviously wasn't at my friend Jenna's birthday get-together last week. An eclectic group of friends is what city living is all about- mostly because you start combining people from different areas of your life to create a support group. Friendship groups are NOT instantaneous. On Sex and the City, they all met seperately. They started meeting each other randomly, and one at a time each girl was added to the bunch. The bonds were formed within the group despite their personality quirks, and this is exactly like real life. Some of my friends are from high school, some are from college, some are from work, and some are just random people I met at the bar. Nonetheless, when it comes time to gather to help a friend with a break up or celebrate something special, we are all there... for better or for worse.

2. Sex is weird.
It is one of the central focuses of Sex and the City, and while it could be argued that "real people" don't have that much sex (though I disagree), I would like to point out the way they depict sex is very realistic. When you meet a new partner in the city, you never know what to expect. Totally normal guys may be into swinging, politicians may want to pee on you, and guys who love you (and even some who don't) will cheat on their wives to be with you. Unlike a fairytale chick flick movie where all sex happens after coming in from being caught in the rain, Sex and the City is absolutely real about the absurdities that you can encounter when dating in the big city. Condoms break. Lovers move away. Lets face it, people: being dumped on a post-it note, "funky tasting spunk," erectile dysfunction--- it's all just another night in New York City! (or Minneapolis, or Phoenix, or...)

3. Real estate is everything.
How could Carrie, who people think "barely works" and "spends all her money on fashion," afford an apartment like that in the city? She moved there in the 80's and it was rent controlled! While people always comment on her apartment being grand in size, its important to note that it wasn't necessarily grand in stature: she had done nothing to her place in 25 years but paint it a new coat of egg shell white (before redecorating in the 1st movie.) She found a cheap place that was perfect, and that's as much effort as she put into it. In the city, if you can find an incredible bargain, or location, or apartment: you hunker down and stay there! Carrie even held on to her apartment after moving into an incredible place with Big! And, Charlotte, having rallied so hard during the divorce for Trey's perfect Park Ave. apartment ended up staying there and raising her new family in it (even though her husband was a wealthy lawyer that could have easily bought another place.) Sex and the City got it right: if you're lucky in big-city-real-estate-love once, you marry for life.

4. The majority of a city girl's money is spent!
The girls spent a lot of money on clothes, we get it! Was it realistic? I say maybe. Every Sex and the City girl did stay true to her fashion sense. Charlotte spent her money on shoes that were lady like yet perfect for working at an art gallery. Yes, Carrie shelled out big bucks for funky pieces, but she had plenty of incredible vintage mixed in. Miranda was hardly shown shopping, and though she had her stylish moments, she could often be found in a Harvard t-shirt and sweat pants. Samantha always looked fabulous, but was rarely seen buying anything unless it was a major attention grabbing must-have (suiting her personality.) What would have made the show even more unbelievable is if every character showed up in every scene wearing the "hot new trend of the moment" like it was some teen sitcom on the WB. Carrie was the only one of her friends who sold her soul for new (shoe) soles... and that, I believe, is very realistic. Some girls in the city go broke due to keeping up with the nightlife, and some of us go broke keeping up with what's going on during the day, but the sad (yet fashionable!) truth is: most city girls do in fact have their money "hanging in their closet."

5. It always works out, but not always how you planned.
It was a long journey through 6 seasons and 2 movies, but in the end all the girls were happy. What makes this story "believable" though is that they were all happy in situations they never expected to find themselves in. Charlotte is the best example of this, and to me, a very realistic big city storyline: If Sex and the City was a faux-fairytale, things would have worked out with her marriage to Trey. He was a WASP doctor with a beautiful home, so of course in la-la-land his flaws would have been sugar coated. However, Charlotte (who could not handle Trey's sexual short comings and cold demeanor) leaves him and instead finds herself happily married to a Jewish husband and has two beautiful daughters, one of which is Asian. Now there's a real big-city-fairytale-ending! Between Samantha ending up happy on her own, to Miranda ending up happy in Brooklyn, big city living is all about searching for a winning hand in the cards you've been dealt. Carrie eventually does marry Mr. Big in very "Hollywood-ending," but even they have issues in the 2nd movie when he won't keep his smelly feet off the new furniture (how suburban of them...?) When it comes down to it, life in the city is has a very odd way of ending up wonderful more often than not... and come on... even you can't deny having your 3 close friends there with you makes the ride a little bit easier.



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Kris Humphries & Kim Kardashian: Married! (A NCWITB Congratulations)

Kongratulations are in order for celebrity power couple Kris Humphries and Kim Kardashian who married last night (8-20-11) in a private ceremony in Montecito, California with the help of 440 guests. Pictures and details are beginning to leak, but NCWITB just wanted to extend a small little "congrats" to them as they begin their lives together.

Now I promise you that, while it may seem to be the case, NCWITB is NOT a Karashian blog. I discuss other things here and will fill the next few pages with a lot of other topics. However, Humphries being a native to Minnesota also peaks my interest in this couple. They have been spotted around town at places like Costco and Lake Minnetonka, so in my mind it's only a matter of time before I meet them and become their best friend. Understand?

Have a  "kongrats" for this celebrity couple? Comment below and let me hear your opinions!

Amber Tamblyn & David Cross: Engaged! (A NCWITB Congratulations)

Congratulations to the newly engaged to actress/poet Amber Tamblyn and her incredibly hilarious fiance comedian/actor David Cross. The two got engaged yesterday, and have been dating since 2008. No further details have been reported, but I am keeping an eye on this story closely!

Nobody Cares What I Think, But... love is love, and a 19 year age gap is nothing if your passion for each other can over come the obstacles the difference in age may place in front of you. I am a BIG supporter of inter-generational couples and David & Amber are a beautiful example of when the unconventional way works out. I wish them all the best!



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Kardashian Kollection for Sears

Nobody Cares What I Think, But...

the Kardashian Kollection for Sears:

delivers! (a satisfying, affordable way to look like your favorite stars!)

By now it is pretty obvious that I am a gigantic Kardashian fan, however, I am not bias. I am completely willing to call something out as awful if it is, even if it's by the Karashian's! Luckily, I don't have to do that with the Kardashian Kollection. The whole set is actually very impressive, affordable, and chic! Lovers of all things Kardashian dream of looking and dressing like their favorite K-named lady (mine is Kim!!), so here I was hoping for a few curvacious dresses inspired by the girls... turns out: I didn't dream big enough!

The Kardashian Kollection featured exclusively at Sears includes apparel (ranging from extra small up to an extra large!), as well as jewelry, purses, shoes, belts, hosiery/intimates AND sunglasses! Leopard/animal print runs rampant through the kitchy, very Kardashian line of dresses and shoes, while the jewels and sunglasses have a surprisingly classic feel to them. (NOTE: At the time of this post, both pairs of sunglasses in the collection were SOLD OUT.)

You can buy pieces from the collection (sorry, kollection) in Sears stores nation-wide. You can also purchase items online here. They are currently offering 30% off if you use the coupon code KARDASHIAN at check-out.

A fan of the Kardashian's, their new apparel, or have a comment on the "kollection" ? Comment and let me know!

SMASH* by K&Company

Nobody Cares What I Think, But...

SMASH* books by K&Company:

are the hottest summer 2011 trend.

Move over, SillyBandz! The coolest trend of the summer isn't something you wear, it's something you smash! SMASH* books are a scrapping-made-simple product from K&Company, and they are in such high demand that some of their more popular products are on back order for months! The concept is basic: get a book, gather any fun items/memories/pictures you have, and smash them all inside! 

Each journal comes with a pen that doubles as a glue stick, so you never have to worry about your adhesive. There are add-on's of course, like SMASH* pockets and stickers, but I think the best part about the SMASH* concept is is that you don't need all that stuff if you don't want to include it. Unlike regular scrapbooking, K&Company has created a stress free way to organize your memories. How? By making it cool to not be organized at all! The most fun you can have with SMASH* books are when you just let the pieces speak for themselves.

To find out more about this awesome fad, visit their website: http://www.eksuccessbrands.com/kandcompany/smash

In on the SMASH*book trend? Comment and let us know all about it!